Sunday, May 30, 2010

weekend naptime

Jayde and I look forward to trying to catch up on sleep on weekends - this is the first one where I actually felt like I did. And there's still one day to go!

Owen doesn't really need the naps to catch up, but he seems to enjoy them anyway...

2 nekkid guys. (mostly, anyway)
on the couch
on the couch with Poppy
in the Moby wrap with mom
as always, more photos are at http://www.flickr.com/photos/45091219@N07/

Sunday, May 23, 2010

One month old


Okay, long time no post. I'm finding that Blogger is not the best way to get photos out to the world - or, at least, it's not as convenient as Flickr, to which I can directly upload an many photos as I want from iPhoto on the mac.

So today's post will consist mainly of a link to my flickr page...

But first, a one-month party story...

Chinese tradition is to celebrate the end of the first month of a baby's life (well...I guess the real tradition is to do this for boys only, but that's different these days). This is the end of the time when the baby and the mom are supposed to stay home, doing nothing but eat and sleep. Its also the end of the live-in mother or mother-in-law (who helps with cooking, cleaning, and baby care for the first month.) Given the difficulty of giving birth and getting a baby through the perils of the start of outside life (also a historic truth, but not far from true today) getting to one month is definitely cause for celebration.

The baby dresses in a good outfit, and wears gold jewelry. Owen had 2 gold bracelets and a gold medallion sewn onto his hat. These were both hand-me-downs that were used for the one-month party for Jayde's brother, Peter.

We celebrated with 2 special dishes - sticky rice (油飯)and a hard-boiled egg with the shell dyed red. We also had Thai food, Burmese tea leaf salad, Taiwanese cookies (or, at least, cookies made by a Taiwanese person) and some good ol' American cake.

This picture is Jayde's mom, with Owen in his special outfit.


For more pictures (of this party and lots else) go to:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/45091219@N07/sets/

Monday, May 3, 2010

Owen Geng-Ming Roberts

So here's the story behind his name:

We decided that he would have an "American" first name, and a Chinese middle name. (When he travels in China or Taiwan, he'll use Jayde's maiden name, Lin.)

The first name was the hardest to decide - we wanted to use a family name, but didn't find any that we both really liked. So we moved on to look at names from some of the multitude of baby name sites on the web, and we came across a site of Welsh names. My family is, at least partly, from Wales, so that seemed like a good list to consider. After rejecting Caddock, Gwalchmai, Rhydderch, and Ynyr, we found Owen, which has at least 2 origins. Owen is the British spelling of the Welsh variant (or is it the other way around?) of Eugene (meaning: "well-born"), my paternal grandfather's name. It also means "born of yew," which didn't mean much to us until we looked at what the yew tree represents - it's an evergreen, and can put down new shoots from branches and thus live a very long time (2000 years). It was a symbol of longevity and rebirth.

Ok...now on to the Chinese middle name. Most of this stuff I don't really understand, so this is my best guess so far.

Geng is a very old character that's one of the fundamental parts of Chinese cosmology, the seventh of ten heavenly branches. In Classical Chinese it is part of the name for Venus when it is in the west (the Evening Star). It's used as a counting word for the seventh part of something – like time. For instance, this lunar year is a Geng Yin year (the 27th year of the 60-year cycle) That's about all I know. We chose it because it creates a good balance with the rest of Owen's Chinese name, and is a character that Jayde and her parents all like. It's written .

The Ming part is a generational name (that Jayde and I kind of made up) that's the second character of Jayde's brother's children, too. It's an old Chinese tradition to have a character that is shared for all the children of a particular generation within a family - Jayde's family doesn't really do this, but we wanted to. That character, (which is made from the characters for sun and moon put together) means, most simply, 'bright'. Owen shares this character with his cousins, Tao and Ora (Jayde's brother Peter's children.)

Jayde's family name in Chinese is Lin , which is made up of two trees. It means forest. So altogether, Owen's Chinese name is 林庚明, Lin Geng-Ming.

Friday, April 30, 2010

Oh, and we did give him a name


I am saving a longer explanation of his name for a real post, but I realized I didn't mention that, in the end, we did not formally name our son 'Baby Tiger Roberts,' despite the big leg up that would have given him with the ladies and with job interviews. His name is Owen Geng-Ming Roberts. We're still calling him 小虎 (Xiao Hu, pronounced kind of like "shao who") which means 'Little Tiger'. This is a common format for nicknames in Chinese, to add 'Little' or 'Big' to some character in the name, or some personality trait.

More on each part of his name soon.

Baby Tiger Cometh



Happy news - our family is now 3! Baby Tiger decided May 8 was too long to wait - he was born April 21 at 10:00pm. It started pretty easily - Jayde started feeling a backache and general discomfort on Tuesday night, but we went to bed and slept (mostly) normally until Jayde woke up at 5 with some bleeding. We went in to the hospital for a (supposedly) brief check, but she was already 4 cm dilated, and they decided to admit her then, since she was contracting well and just to keep an eye on the bleeding.


15 hours later, Baby Tiger's heart rate dropped (for the second time), and Jayde went in for an emergency C-section. This was very frightening for both of us - everything happened fast, I couldn't go into the OR with her (since it was an emergency, Jayde got a general anesthetic, so they don't allow spouses in the room) and there was a clear risk to our baby's health. But 20 minutes later (a pretty long period of time, really) a nurse gave us the news that both Jayde and the baby were okay, and a few minutes later I got to hold my son! It was a special and intense mixture of surprise, joy, and relief at seeing his perfect little form. About 20 minutes later, Jayde was brought back out, still pretty groggy and attached to a wide variety of drips and machines, but that made my relief and joy complete.

All in all, despite not following our plan at all (which I suppose I should get used to), the day ended about as perfectly as we could have hoped - a healthy baby and a safe and recovering Jayde. It would have been really difficult without our great support team. My entire family was at the hospital at one time or another, which was a great support throughout the long day. Jayde's parents and brother dropped everything and drove up, 2 weeks before they'd planned, and arrived in the afternoon on Friday. It was great to have them here, and we're thankful to Linda for being here and cooking great meals during this first month. Our friends Belva and Julie also drove two and a half hours to be with us during labor and the birth. We really want to thank the wonderful staff at the UW Medical Center, who were as expert and as diligent as we'd heard. They got us out of a dangerous and scary situation, and launched us on the next phase of our lives.
So now we're a week into parenthood, working through the various difficulties of feeding, pooping, and sleeping, but loving (just about) every minute of it. I can't think of a better reason to get up at 3 am than to see our son. He's in his co-sleeper, having squirmed an arm or two out of my still-not-professional swaddling job, telling us that it's already past time to eat. And it is real bliss to rock-walk him around the house at 4 am, his body warm and limp from his meal, and to pat his back and kiss his head. Being a dad is great so far.

Friday, April 16, 2010

Belly & Daisies

It is hard to capture the belly by myself so this is what I've managed along with the picture below.

This was taken on my walk around Greenlake.

Both are happy accidents really. Would have been useful to have one of those cameras where you can turn the viewing panel.

Oh Pointy Belly - Oh Pointy Pointy

We are officially full term. Which means Baby Tiger can come at any time! But, I'm asking him to be patient and to arrive on or after May 8.

So, now, he is a pointy belly. My Chinese doctor says he needs to descend more which means he should get pointier. That should be interesting. No?

Tuesday, March 30, 2010

Showers of Love

On March 6, 2010, a few amazing women (Sara, Louise, and Katie) put on a shower for us and a bunch of wonderful friends and family gathered to help us celebrate the coming of Baby Tiger.

Thank You Everyone!
Especially SARA, LOUISE, AND KATIE!
And thank you to all who made the delicious food! When I recover from my soon-to-be sleep-deprived state, I'll be asking for cooking lessons!

Those of you who know me well know that I have a strong aversion to all things sentimental. But...maybe I'm growing soft because I'm sure this shower will become one of my fondest memories. Oh treacle! ;p

Below are some pics.
Lee and Jayde with red velvet cupcakes. The candles read "Baby O" because Lee wanted a O age candle.

Thanks Louise for making the cupcakes!
(L TO R) Kuei-Hsien, Katie, Charles and Jane Keyes, Louise
(L to R) Steve, Allison, Catherine
Jack (Baby Tiger's older cousin) and his dad, Brian
Bob reading his wish for us (part of Baby Tiger's quilt project)
(L to R) Charlie, Steve, Verda
(L to R) Larry, Jayde, Chiaki, Emma
(L to R) Katie, Kuei-Hsien, Shu-Mei, Jiawen
Sammy, the young man who won the "baby" game. Check out all of the baby pins on him! And...Jayde, the pregnant lady.
Lee (the future dad) with Chris, Gwynn, and their daughter Anna

Monday, March 15, 2010

Ardha Baddha Chandrasana - Bound Half Moon Pose

Learning New Things During Pregnancy

So, I'm taking yoga classes with an amazing lady who is an OB/GYN by day and a yoga teacher by night. How does she manage this? Who knows. The staff at the UW Medical Center seems to think that yoga enables this multi-tasking doctor to be a super and a super calm woman. Very impressive and inspiring.

Although I've danced since the age of 4 and have practiced Ashtanga yoga on and off for several years, I am encountering new postures in my current class. It is not a class designed for pregnancy but as my teacher is an OB/GYN, I figure she wouldn't let me do anything dangerous.

Here I am in a bound half moon pose. To be honest, I surprised myself when I got into the posture. Who knew one could wrap one's arm around one leg and bind the two arms together behind one's back and then raise the other leg up into the air?! Crazy!

I was certain I wouldn't be able to keep it up as my tummy got bigger but somehow, I managed today. So, you never know what a pregnant lady can do at 32 weeks and 4 days.

I doubt I can keep this up for long but whatever strength I build will certainly help me on the day of Baby Tiger's arrival. No?!

And...if you are interested in yoga, check out Two Dog Yoga in Lake City. I'm very happy to have been directed to this studio during my pregnancy. The super OB/GYN yoga teacher is there on Mondays and Thursdays.

Monday, March 8, 2010

Scrambling in the Womb

No. This is not Baby Tiger. Obviously.

I wanted to have some kind of image in this posting so I found this online. It sort of captures the feeling I hope to convey.

2 or 3 nights ago when I turned over in my sleep, Baby Tiger did the most amazing scrambling to right himself. Apparently, he was in the perfect position and I disturbed him by moving from my right to my left side. It felt like frantic dog paddling with his little arms against the left side of his uterine home. It made me laugh because he apparently couldn't get any kind of hold or footing so had to scramble for quite a while. If I could act it out for you, you'd laugh too. It was very funny. Really!

Sunday, March 7, 2010

Babies before baby

Jayde and I scanned some of our baby photos for a baby shower (thanks Katie and Louise for printing and framing them!) - Here are a few of them...









This is Jayde in her special Japanese outfit from her grandfather, who was fluent in Japanese and taught us both a lot about eating sushi.















Jayde liked to drive around in her pedal car - the first of its kind in the neighborhood. Just to rub it in, Jayde wanted all the other kids to know she was happier than they were, too.
















Jayde is very very very happy about her new hat.













This is Jayde and her brother Peter playing around outside the family home/business. That's an oil drum - one of many from the family oil distribution business. This is the kind of place kids love to play.















This is Jayde and her mom. This is what everyone else but the kids wants the outside to look like.


















This is Jayde and her grandmother. And believe it or not, Jayde's hair naturally stood up straight like a mohawk. That's just what happens with Chinese baby hair. Maybe it will happen for Baby Tiger, too.














This is still my favorite kind of outfit for formal photographs. Ask me some time and I'll show you my overall shorts/nothing else photos from last year. Smokin.











This is me and my dad. I can't wait to take a photo like this with my son.
















In this photo, I appear to be chewing on my mom's shoulder after having a bath. From my mom's calm expression, this must have been taken before I had any teeth.














Wow. This picture tells a thousand words about the times in which I grew up. This is still my favorite car in the whole world. And its a great bumper sticker, too.















This is the closest my sister Allison got to smiling for the photographer - most of the photos from this session feature Allie in increasing states of obvious displeasure, and me with an increasingly forced smile.

Why don't I wear purple pants any more? I'm already planning my next formal portrait - purple overall shorts with the pattern of this shirt. And nothing else. Hott!

Sunday, February 28, 2010

Mock C-Section

Lee, the anesthesiologist, watches over the patient who will soon get her amniotic sac (blue) cut. Her partner in the black vest watches calmly while the OBs in the orange vest and blue tunic operate.

Day 3 of Great Starts Prenatal Class

Tuesday, February 16, 2010

Men Giving Birth

Here are 3 men in our Great Starts Prenatal Class simulating the birth process.

Lee is the rastafarian uterus. His job was to push the gigantic head of the plastic baby out of the knit uterus. He had to try several times.

The other 2 men held the plastic hip and something else I can't recall. The woman in red is our instructor who played the doctor assisting the birth.


The men did well and it only took about 5 minutes.

Saturday, February 13, 2010

Baby Showers and Baby Gifts

As you already know, we are being treated to 2 baby showers - one on March 6 in Seattle and another on March 21 in Olympia. How lucky can we be!?

As a part of that process, friends and family have asked if we have a gift registry. Well, now we do!

But before we get to that, we want to say that we have already been blessed with lots of second-hand baby clothes and other necessities. We love stuff with a history especially when it comes from family and friends!

So...the registry includes things we'll need and some extras like toys. We are of course clueless about most things so if you have some suggestions such as your favorite childhood book or an absolute lifesaver for parenting, please enlighten us! Also, if you know of good Chinese storybooks, we want to make sure Baby Tiger speaks Mandarin and reads Chinese. Good luck to us!

And...you can search for Lee or Jayde Roberts at http://www.amazon.com/babyregistry or http://www.birthandbeyond.com/registry1.html.

We look forward to seeing you in March!

The Bump that is Baby Tiger

Well...the little man must be growing faster because his presence is much more obvious to the outside world. At week 28 and 5 days, this is how he is expressing himself. I'm guessing (with the help of numerous books) that he'll just grow faster and faster. We'll see how that goes!

On the inside, he seems to be practicing for his gymnastic trials or kick boxing. It is reassuring to know that he is so healthy but my right ribs are a little achy. But, rather lots of kicking and turning than stillness. Maybe we'll have a feisty little tiger...


Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Lions & Tigers & Baby Showers Oh My!


Hello Family and Friends,


Some of you have offered to organize a baby shower for us - the rabbit, rooster, and gestating tiger - and we feel so lucky!

The best part is, some of you have offered to make a quilt for Baby Tiger. The idea is, anyone who is interested can contribute a 6"x6" fabric square and our incredibly talented friends will transform those pieces of fabric into a quilt. Along with the fabric square, you can write out a wish card. Doesn't that sound cool!?

So, we are all very excited about the prospect of this Baby Tiger quilt and want to give everyone a heads up. More information will be coming via snail mail or email this month.

Sunday, February 7, 2010

Tiger credits are due

The tiger graphic we used for this blog comes from a fun and exquisite calendar made by Midori, a paper company in Japan. We were lucky enough to get one from our friends Liz (who is doing her PhD in Kobe and is a great resource for all things crafty and all things Japanese), and Katie (who is here in Seattle and just happened to be going to Japan at the perfect time).

The calendar seems to have been discontinued already, but Midori has a lot of great stuff. Its a good chance to practice your Japanese, too: http://www.midori-japan.co.jp/


Hello From In Here


We're just getting things kicked off here - but in case you just wandered in here by accident, this is the blog for a not-yet-ready-for-prime-time young man who shall remain nameless until his parents finally make a decision.

Until then, you may call him whatever seems best!

Here's his best portrait to date:


And these are the parents, Lee and Jayde:


When they dress up in funny costumes, they look like this: